Bryan C
January 20, 2024
I’m going to divide this wedding story into two parts. Part 1 is the tl;dr version, which is to say: that Tim was and is phenomenal. We cannot recommend him enough, he is a consummate professional and genuinely takes the time to understand every aspect of your special day. We were married in May of 2014 and he so positively influenced my family that my second cousin and his wife were married by Tim in 2022. He remembered him from that long ago. Get him. What are you even doing? It’s not even a question. Ok. Listen, so congratulations if you’re still with me, I’m now going to go straight into part 2, and it is for the savvy, sophisticated reader. For full disclosure: I did receive Tim’s permission to tell this story, as it is important to remember that we are all human. You need to understand that things will happen to your wedding plans that are absolutely out of your control and the best advice I can give is to just roll with it. So. We decided to get married in May 2014. At the time, we found Tim because we were non-religious and did not want an extravagant over-the-top wedding. It’s just not our style. After reaching out to him to set up a time to discuss our wedding plans, Tim talked to us separately on the phone for well over an hour each, really asking deep and probing questions to get to the heart of our love for each other. He was hilarious, quick-witted, and gave sound advice. After having perhaps three or four, 1-hour conversations, I’d felt like we’d known each other our entire lives. After gathering his information, he developed a custom game plan for our special day. He truly went deep into understanding both of us, and it was noticeable during every step of the process. Our wedding planning continued, and since it was a relatively low-key event with about 70 people, we were able to fund and plan it ourselves with minimal stress. Then, about a month out before our wedding, we reached out to him to confirm the date/time, and if he had any questions. No answer. We reached out again, this time by calling and texting. Days went by. Nothing. Eventually after a couple of weeks, and now in a desperate time crunch, we were forced to abandon Tim and go with someone else who was able to get us done with about less than 2 weeks' notice. About a week before the wedding, we were at the store and I distinctly remember my wife’s face going white as a ghost as it was her phone ringing and it was Tim! She hung up on him, and he left a voicemail. We debated even listening to the voicemail, without deleting it outright having never known the message he left, and I’m glad we decided against deleting it. It turns out that Tim had a terrible medical issue arise that completely took him out of commission for a month, with no way to communicate with us or others. Being medical professionals, the things he told us could not have been made up. There was no question about what had occurred to him. We called him back, all three crying on the phone together. The answer was yes, Tim, we absolutely want you to officiate our wedding if you feel like you can do it. He said he could and that he would not let us down. Fortunately, the other lady who agreed to take us on understood the situation and very graciously ripped up the check we provided her. Flash forward to our wedding, Tim was incredible. My family/friends/co-workers did nothing but compliment the man stating “he is the best we’ve ever seen”. And he was. We were beyond grateful everything worked out, and he did not disappoint us. He gave us a special, non-religious ceremony that held more value than any religious ceremony I’d ever attended in my life. My second cousin was in attendance that day, and that inspired him to get Tim in 2022. This story is to illustrate what happens in life, particularly in wedding planning. We have stuff happen that is well beyond our control. But what is in my control is to send him nothing but praise and accolades that he deeply deserves. Tim will not let you down. Thanks for reading. [originally posted to TheKnot.com]