Making Your Ceremony Your Own
I’ll work closely with both the bride and the groom to come up with an unforgettable ceremony that will move you, your families and friends. Here’s how it’s done:
- Get in touch with me. You’ll get to know me and my capabilities, and I’ll learn your needs and expectations for your ceremony. At this point, I’ll let you know my fee. Fees vary based on the complexity of the ceremony and the amount of custom writing required. My rates are comparable to that of a justice of the peace – however, a justice of the peace generally won’t create a custom ceremony.
- Book the date with me. A 50% non-refundable deposit is required.
- Fill out a detailed questionnaire. I’ll inquire about virtually every detail of the ceremony, from what you want me to wear to what sort of language you want during specific portions of the ceremony (the vows, the exchange of rings, etc.) I’ll also ask you to include some personal details (such as how you first met, your shared interests, etc.) I’ll incorporate as much of it as I can into the ceremony.
- I’ll compose the ceremony. As a rule, I don’t share it with the couple before the wedding. It takes away from the magic of your wedding day if you already know what’s going to be said. I will, however, go over the questions of intent, vows and exchange of rings during the rehearsal. These are things you’ll be asked to respond to and repeat, and I want you to feel comfortable doing so during the actual ceremony.
- I’ll attend your rehearsal… then the ceremony (of course!)… and that’s that!
Religious ceremonies typically follow a rigid structure that don’t allow couples the chance to really make the ceremony their own. A courthouse wedding will be similarly rigid and uninspired. I strive to make each couple feel that their wedding day is truly their own. You’ll have as little or as much control over the ceremony as you like.